Having a baby is one of the most wonderful things a woman can ever hope to experience. However, as you're adjusting to your new life as a mother, you may find yourself putting your sex life on the back burner. This is perfectly natural since you'll be devoting so much of your energy to your newborn, but it can have an effect on you and your partner's relationship if you aren't mindful of it. Here are some helpful tips for dealing with this:
- Communicate with your partner – Communication is an essential part of any relationship, so be open with your partner about how you're feeling. "If your partner wants to have sex but you don't feel ready, tell him that you're sensitive about it and explain why you don't feel able to respond to his desires right now," suggests WeWomen.com. "It's very important for your relationship that he doesn't feel rejected."
- Ease back into it slowly – Just because you're not in the mood for actual penetration quite yet doesn't mean that you can't be intimate in other ways. Start by giving each other sexy massages with natural massage oil and engaging in other forms of intimacy and pleasure so that you can build up to penetration gradually.
- Wait until you're ready – Even women with the most active sex drives may find themselves abstaining from sex after they've had a baby, and this could be for a number of reasons. For example, you might be in physical pain for a few weeks—especially if you've had a Cesarean section. Never pressure yourself into rushing the recovery process—and don't let anyone else pressure you into it either. You'll know when you're ready to start having sex again.